Self Acceptance: An affirmation or acceptance of self in spite of weaknesses or deficiencies.

I saw this quote below today and it started me thinking about self acceptance. Why is it so hard for some of us to accept ourselves and appreciate the uniqueness of what we have to offer? Do we focus too much on our weaknesses and shortcomings instead of celebrating our strengths?

I believe that one of my biggest fortunes in life was being raised by parents who could laugh at themselves and not take life too seriously. They taught me by example about hard work, morals and ethics but they were not the type of parents that pushed me to be perfect ~ they always accepted me for who I was, shortcomings and all. What this ingrained in me was that it’s okay to not be perfect and I am still a worthy person.

So with this being said, I have come up with a challenge for all of you. I am interested to see how many of you can write a sentence about why you are a beautiful person ~ not physically speaking of course, but your spirit, your heart, your soul.

This is not a “bragging” session, it is an exercise in expressing a little self-acceptance and appreciation for yourself. After all, isn’t that what we are all really after in life? Could that be the secret to ultimate happiness? I’m wondering how easy or difficult this will be for you to do. I hope you find easy. Celebrate yourself!

46 thoughts on “Self Acceptance: An affirmation or acceptance of self in spite of weaknesses or deficiencies.

  1. I will even start to give you an example…something that I take great pride in, and makes me feel good inside, is the fact that I really try to treat every person I meet with respect and kindness. Sometimes we make judgments on people because of their actions and truth be known, you have no idea what that person is going through in that moment ~ spouse dying of cancer, child in the hospital, just lost their job or home. Compassion and kindness might be exactly what that person needs in that moment….and even if that’s not the case ~ maybe they’re just grouchy, it still makes me feel good that I conduct myself in that manner. What do you do that makes you feel good inside?

    • This is so beautifully said Susan. Your personal insight is inspiring.

      I agree that treat each person with kindness and respect opens you up to the gifts that person can share with you. Each person that we meet have something that we can learn from.

      Thank you for such a lovely post.

      • I, too, believe each person we meet comes into our life for a reason ~ even if it is only for a moment. True story ~ I have had a perfect stranger flash me a smile in one of my lowest hours and the thought of that smile, which I believe was meant just for me, helped get me through the day. Of course, I’ve generalized this statement but that is that after probably 8 years, I still think of that stranger’s smile…and it was someone in a passing car.

  2. This is hard for me….. But I have turned a corner recently. I realized…..I don’t have to beat myself up anymore. It’s okay to come up short. It’s okay to make mistakes. And most importantly, it’s okay to admit to them. Growing is a beautiful process.

  3. I learned that sometimes being afraid is OK – however staying in that state of mind for long can be very soul-damaging. So I am proud every time I leave my comfort zone to drift into unknown and scary …. I am proud when I stay put to face the challenges in my life instead of running away into hidings.
    I am weak but I’ve learned to transform my weaknesses into something very powerful … this is what makes me beautiful..

  4. Personally, I’m pretty sure the world would be a better place if everyone was comfortable with themselves. Unfortunately, if this were so the world would grind to a halt, because there would be no greed, no wants (because the other guy has it), no self improvement (I’m happy as I am), etc.
    For my part, I strive simply to ‘know myself’ – I’m a long way down that road, but I’m happy to say that I still surprise myself in a positive way, but then I also disappoint myself too, but I can live with it.

  5. As for me, my ability to love someone whole-heartedly and deeply completes me. There used to be a time, I used to question myself if it was worth loving someone (not just my partner) so deeply. If the feeling is ever appreciated let alone reciprocated. But then I came to terms with it. How the person doesn’t love me back doesn’t and shouldn’t matter. All that matters is how I decide to love the person. Somedays loving in such a deep, all-consuming fashion becomes tiring and draining. But, I remind myself every other day that I’d have it no other way. This is just me. And the way I choose to love and show love.

  6. This is an amazing post and exercise in self awareness. My first inclination was to say I am a beautiful person because my greatest joy comes from helping others, which is true, but not truthful. Without becoming enmeshed in the past…let me just say this..hard, but finding hard is getting easier.

    As an abuse survivor…the hardest thing in my entire life was to look in the mirror. There was NO love there, ever. Until after I reached my 50th year. I don’t know the exact catalyst…except to say that someone loved ME enough to force me to look in that mirror, day after day after day, until I could say the words…I am beautiful and I love you…to the woman who stared back at me. My world was turned upside down that day not so long ago. I now feel as beautiful as God ever intended and I while I still strive to give more than I receive; now I just do it better.

    • Rhonda, what a beautiful thing to share. It actually made me a little teary eyed but I have to say that the fact you can say what you said shows that you have come a long way. And in fact, I feel like what you have revealed is the exact reason I posted this. Most people are not comfortable saying nice things about themselves so I was interested in seeing who and how many people would respond to this. Not that I expect everyone to put it all out there in a public manner, but I hope I got some people thinking even if it was just to themselves. I have a feeling what you shared will help someone else out there. Thank you for your beautiful share. *Hugs*

      • Susan,
        Thank you, I hope something good comes out of everything I do now and it’s people who look at the world the way you do that makes it easier and easier to do. Finding this place, this world of blogging, has done more for me in the last 3 months than anything I could have imagined. A new look at an old world…through a magical mirror…giving voice to a newly awakened lioness…I’ve been roaring ever since and will do it everyday I breathe. Thanks for letting me share your wonderful corner…it is a very happy place!

  7. Beautiful post.

    For me, I think it’s that I’m kind and giving yet I respect my own boundaries – meaning, I’ve learned to be generous of myself but I also know when I need to say “no” in order to be true to myself. That’s something that’s taken time for me to learn, but so worth it.

    • That is a beautiful statement because I would imagine that living in the light of your life experiences sheds some insight on who you are. As for myself, I would never trade any beauty from my youth for the knowledge and self-love I have acquired with age. It’s far more beautiful to me.

  8. I’ve learned that I’m a strong woman- I’ve learned that when something knocks me down, I get back up and dust myself off and carry on- I believe to always smile and laugh even during difficult times-it leads to a beautiful heart!

  9. I am beautiful because I do things that make me grow holistically as a person. I believe in spending quality time BY myself and WITH myself. Treat yourselves as someone else, how would yhou pamper him/her is they way you should pamper yourselves. That’s how I feed my soul – with the great things. I believe that we should love ourselves before loving anybody else.

    These are some of the things I do – read, paint, doodle, draw, donate, adopt (corals/acre), join projects, try new things/activities, etc.

    If you can do things alone, you are enough. More than enoug in fact πŸ˜‰

  10. I am human, so I am one of the most sophisticated complex machines with a functioning mind, an orchestrating soul, a spirit, and the ability to create, therefore I am beautiful πŸ™‚

  11. This would be difficult, except that my daughter did this for me last week when she wrote, “You give me love and teach me to care for animals and people.” I’m still smiling over that.

    Yours was one of two blogging challenges given to me yesterday, by the way. It’s like WordPress is conspiring to make me think I’m marvelous, which is not my default line of thinking. Thanks for this, SKE.

  12. I read something in a book a long time ago. One friend was gushing to her friend about another person, and the friend said, “That’s nice. I wonder what she struggles with.” It was quite the AHA moment for me and reminds me always to never compare myself to others and to be aware that we all struggle with something. That, I hope, turns into compassion and empathy on my part.

  13. My self acceptance came the moment I realized God created all of this for me to enjoy and share. Joy comes in so many shapes and sizes and joy is always increased when you can share it with another. That’s why photographers and film makers are so important. They can share parts of God’s wonders that one may never get to see in person but can see and feel and experience through anothers eyes. Thank you so much for your thought provoking posts … Tom

  14. I love this especially since I just wrote a poem about my modsety and all…i so want to share it on your comment section :). I am kind and modest…i enjoy it. I am completely imperfect but i like it…helps me to stay humble and grounded. I also coined John Maxwell’s definition of success for myself after I read his book failing forward, he wrote- Success is knowing what your purpose is in life, walking in it and sewing seeds of benefit in others” It is what i aim to do…i aim to have done, when finally i die.

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